Serious How do I stop seeking validation?

[クーロ]

Bad place to ask and probably a homosexual trait but I cannot stop seeking validation. Not out of loneliness per se but I'd go out of my way to scour forums looking for unanswered questions, then answer them and hope to get a "thanks" from the OP. I guess it's from an absence of academic validation or trying to cope around my low intelligence by answering random questions about shit nobody cares about. I spend the entire day doing this to the point where I have paragraphs of random info stored just for these occasions. How the hell do I stop? I need to assure myself that no one cares and that I don't need to spend so much time on the web waiting for people to say nice things to me but this monkey brain isn't helping.

 

[scizoCrashout]

you need to have an ego death, take drugs, weed changed ne and i get nad at people instead of sucking up to then

 

[NightProwler]

Get laid, but that’s never gonna happen. So I suggest going the route of Saint Cho.

 

[scizoCrashout]

Get laid, but that’s never gonna happen. So I suggest going the route of Saint Cho.

geting laid didnt change ne at all

 

[クーロ]

@Saladino JFL react I will FIND you

 

[NightProwler]

geting laid didnt change ne at all

Stop larping, no one with an anime pfp gets any play.

 

[Saladino]

Stop larping, no one with an anime pfp gets any play.

Only the ones with a Richard Ramírez pfp JFL

 

[NightProwler]

Only the ones with a Richard Ramírez pfp JFL

Thanks, I get all the babes!

 

[IGiveUp]

Maybe try not caring about others therefore their validation and opinions won’t matter for you as much

 

[クーロ]

Maybe try not caring about others therefore their validation and opinions won’t matter for you as much

I do in a cyclical nature. Sometimes I want to be normal and have friends other times I want to be a warlord raping and killing everything in sight for fun. Maybe it's an ADHD problem. Even in the latter state I seek the same validation somehow

 

[NightProwler]

Maybe try not caring about others therefore their validation and opinions won’t matter for you as much

 

[(やみ)]

I do in a cyclical nature. Sometimes I want to be normal and have friends other times I want to be a warlord raping and killing everything in sight for fun. Maybe it's an ADHD problem. Even in the latter state I seek the same validation somehow

Why do you seek validation? According to this site, it may be because you have a low self-steem. If its the case, you can work on ways to raise it. Say, if you feel dumb and this lower you steem, than study, understand the subject and you'll naturally increase your self-steem while raising raise own Intelligence Points! It's win-win. But it may be not as simple as that, of course. Understanding yourself and the fears that lower you steem is a good way to start and think of ways to raise your it

 

[General Alek]

by getting it from me

 

[ShoelessSperg]

Bad place to ask and probably a homosexual trait but I cannot stop seeking validation. Not out of loneliness per se but I'd go out of my way to scour forums looking for unanswered questions, then answer them and hope to get a "thanks" from the OP. I guess it's from an absence of academic validation or trying to cope around my low intelligence by answering random questions about shit nobody cares about. I spend the entire day doing this to the point where I have paragraphs of random info stored just for these occasions. How the hell do I stop? I need to assure myself that no one cares and that I don't need to spend so much time on the web waiting for people to say nice things to me but this monkey brain isn't helping.

Seek your own validation not normie niggers

 

[Maid]

It sounds like you understand that people often don't care about things in general, and that online interactions are separate from real-life validation, which is a good starting point. The issue is more about finding internal validation rather than seeking it externally, which is common but easier to fix. I'm not going to give you a list of basic steps to follow because, honestly, it's like getting exercises from physical therapy and never doing them, even though they'd benefit you.

One thing that helped me was finding people with similar interests and branching out from there. Sometimes, just being heard in the right way can boost your self-esteem, which I think is why many of us are here. If you spend more time with people who are more 'normal,' you might feel more understood, though not necessarily validated.

In short, you recognize the issue and understand that external validation is artificial. Now, find people who listen to you and don't question how you express yourself. Be direct with what you mean and the less you'll care about the validation the more you put yourself in situations.

 

[Friezacel]

Either by getting validation or death

 

[Deleted member 1903]

Everyone gets off to being right or winning in an argument and desires to be validated. We need to stop common human traits out to be some super special subhuman flaw, this just keeps us in a rut