How do you talk to people? (srs)

Thadman

Thadman

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Sep 6, 2023
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How do everyday people just manage to flawlessly talk to others? (especially girls). I fear being lonely and isolated for the rest of my godforsaken life due to social impairment and my inability to build relationships with others, once I move out and leave my family behind how will I go on with it?

How do you socially interact with people?
 
anon1822fourthacc

anon1822fourthacc

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Nov 25, 2022
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How do everyday people just manage to flawlessly talk to others? (especially girls). I fear being lonely and isolated for the rest of my godforsaken life due to social impairment and my inability to build relationships with others, once I move out and leave my family behind how will I go on with it?

How do you socially interact with people?
Yeah me too, I'm anxious as fuck in general but I also become weirdly incompetent when talking. It's like if I don't carefully watch my mouth and keep my retardation in check, I end up being a moron. I guess nervousness makes me an idiot.

So I developed an aloof, serious persona that is more intelligent cause he doesn't say much. Cause if I let out my friendly personality I get no respect.
 
patientfrog

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Apr 21, 2022
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@Thadman @anon1822fourthacc , well, lust(disordered sexual desire) makes it more difficult to talk to women. when you're into masturbation and porn, you've habituated yourself to be looking for sex and sexual release. then, when you're talking to girls, that will always be in the back of your mind, and it will shape how you interact with women. when i was a serious coomer, i was always trying to come off to women in a way that maximized my chances of getting sex. it's incredibly dishonest, and a misuse of sex itself.

without porn and masturbation, it's much easier to talk to women, though i've realized most of the time it's not desireable to do so. I don't come into a conversation with women looking to GET something from them, looking to steer the conversation to sex, and so the conversations can flow much more naturally, and in a disinterested spontaneous way.

does this make sense?
 
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Thadman

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@Thadman @anon1822fourthacc , well, lust(disordered sexual desire) makes it more difficult to talk to women. when you're into masturbation and porn, you've habituated yourself to be looking for sex and sexual release. then, when you're talking to girls, that will always be in the back of your mind, and it will shape how you interact with women. when i was a serious coomer, i was always trying to come off to women in a way that maximized my chances of getting sex.

without porn and masturbation, it's much easier to talk to women, though i've realized most of the time it's not desireable to do so. I don't come into a conversation with women looking to GET something from them, looking to steer the conversation to sex, and so the conversations can flow much more naturally, and in a disinterested spontaneous way.
I dont know how to talk to people in general, and lust is not on my mind when I talk to a typical female. Imagine being a relationship and not knowing how to communicate with your partner and it becomes awkward to the point she just leaves.
 
Cope_Time

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According to my observations of normies, they tend to talk about themselves most of the time, Its weird when you actually pay attention, its two people taking turns to talk about themselves and their ides and their stuff etc, you might just talk about yourself, or your ideas if you cant talk about yourself, additionally you may comment their life instead of talking about your life as that will make norimes happier.

Thats what I seen though my social status might not be enough to gather adequate observation.
 
Thadman

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According to my observations of normies, they tend to talk about themselves most of the time, Its weird when you actually pay attention, its two people taking turns to talk about themselves and their ides and their stuff etc, you might just talk about yourself, or your ideas if you cant talk about yourself, additionally you may comment their life instead of talking about your life as that will make norimes happier.

Thats what I seen though my social status might not be enough to gather adequate observation.
I think that's a big reason why I always failed to connect with and make friendships with people beyond a certain point, I rarely ever talk about myself or ask others about their lives and listen to them narcissistically ramble (which I can be quite guilty of myself).

Rarely do you ever hear people share interesting ideas, funny jokes, or genuinely show interest in one another when communicating. 90% of conversations consist of people fellating themselves and expecting others to show interest, which we are basically brought up to pretend to give a shit about.

Notice how cliquey most classrooms, community centers, and workplaces are. If you can manage to come up with original ideas, interesting topics, and any sort of discussion which doesn't involve talking about yourself then everyday normies will cling to you like the most interesting and unique man alive.
 
MongoloidJoe

MongoloidJoe

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Jul 28, 2023
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I feel out of place as an Asian Male in the West
I wholeheartedly hope I can leave for greener pastures in Asia
 
Dyinghope

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Apr 12, 2022
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I was always too quiet and shy when younger and even worse with strangers and women I liked. It's hard when you actually try and get shot down, rejected and ignored, I realised it's my looks and not being part of a social group that made it much more challenging eventually. I'm not quite as bad these days, but I'm seen as old creepy guy now so it's an added obstacle to try and get somewhere even if I was crazy confident and had all the moves and right words.
 
Rebbington

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I'm too busy grinding to talk to people Henry of skalitz needs me
 
WaterFlame

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Nov 8, 2023
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I dont feel anxious when talking but the conversation gets awkward because I cant come up with interesting things to say
 
Thadman

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Sep 6, 2023
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I dont feel anxious when talking but the conversation gets awkward because I cant come up with interesting things to say
This is exactly my issue. Refer to what was said earlier in the thread, most people talk about themselves and follow on from there, not much people have original interesting or funny things to share.

Ever been in a workplace before? 90% of people just want to talk about themselves or want you to tell them about yourselves (which they use to shit talk you later, but thats for a different story).

If you really have the need to talk to others either make shit up about your personal life or come up with interesting stories and follow up from there.
 
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