OldAutEP
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- Jul 31, 2023
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This is my observations on what to do if your mother does something that displeases you.
My mother had some psychosis problems and basically couldn't deal with reality and talking to her about was not really an option.
I have since realized that talking to my mother was just an excercise in gaslightning where she tried to make think that I was the one that was crazy.
This is an excercise in Pavlovian conditioning. The first thing to remember is that you never try to explain anything. You are treating her like a dog.
So if there is some positive change say something nice about it but never try to explain what you are doing. You are just going to run into a wall of her delusions which makes her effectively just as smart as a dog when it comes to try to talking about the problem.
This comes in steps. Step one is for minor problems. Step two is for major stuff like a schizophrenic not wanting to take her pills.
Step one - decreasing communication privileges
The first step if she is talking to you is to refuse to listen to her at all and just talking about something else. Just refuse to discuss something if she mentions it first. Just pretend she didn't say anything.
Then we have the phone. Just set her number to go to voice mail directly. Block all other avenues.
If she questions if you have done this, just say it must be her fault and that she is technically incompetent. This will work on a woman.
If you are living separately, then just don't let her in. Pretend not to be home. And if caught in a lie, just pretend she is crazy.
Step two - actual violence
I have tried actual violence but it didn't work. If your mother figure is really crazy some one has probably worked her over really good already and you will not be able to top that.
What will work however on women is their stuff. They will have special plates and drapes and stuff that they cherish are specially fond of. You as a man will not notice this but she will have them. Time to find out what they are and either start threatening them or actually destroying them.
Whether you do this in front of her or do this incognito and then gaslight her about it is your choice.
Mods are encouraged to tell me if this post is over the top.
My mother had some psychosis problems and basically couldn't deal with reality and talking to her about was not really an option.
I have since realized that talking to my mother was just an excercise in gaslightning where she tried to make think that I was the one that was crazy.
This is an excercise in Pavlovian conditioning. The first thing to remember is that you never try to explain anything. You are treating her like a dog.
So if there is some positive change say something nice about it but never try to explain what you are doing. You are just going to run into a wall of her delusions which makes her effectively just as smart as a dog when it comes to try to talking about the problem.
This comes in steps. Step one is for minor problems. Step two is for major stuff like a schizophrenic not wanting to take her pills.
Step one - decreasing communication privileges
The first step if she is talking to you is to refuse to listen to her at all and just talking about something else. Just refuse to discuss something if she mentions it first. Just pretend she didn't say anything.
Then we have the phone. Just set her number to go to voice mail directly. Block all other avenues.
If she questions if you have done this, just say it must be her fault and that she is technically incompetent. This will work on a woman.
If you are living separately, then just don't let her in. Pretend not to be home. And if caught in a lie, just pretend she is crazy.
Step two - actual violence
I have tried actual violence but it didn't work. If your mother figure is really crazy some one has probably worked her over really good already and you will not be able to top that.
What will work however on women is their stuff. They will have special plates and drapes and stuff that they cherish are specially fond of. You as a man will not notice this but she will have them. Time to find out what they are and either start threatening them or actually destroying them.
Whether you do this in front of her or do this incognito and then gaslight her about it is your choice.
Mods are encouraged to tell me if this post is over the top.