Success How to quit porn

NEETzschean

NEETzschean

NEET
Dec 17, 2020
111
I think there are two pillars to this:

1. Overcome depression (difficult, I can't give you specific advice here as it must be tailored to your psychology and circumstances)

2. Create a serious enforceable penalty for watching porn

For me, depression isn't just feeling that you're in a pit. It's the belief that sooner or later, you will always fall back into the pit.

It's possible that quitting porn could enable you to overcome depression. I see porn as a form of mind-rape, with psychologically ruinous long-term effects.

The penalty I created was that if I watched or in any way used porn, I would not be able to talk to someone I value for 3 months. I know that if I failed I would be honest about it, making it enforceable. An additional penalty beyond just not being able to interact with them is that I'd be humiliating myself and letting them down, hurting them emotionally. As well as the inherent destructive effects of porn on my health (nihilism, drug addict behaviour).

Here are some alternative penalties from Chatgpt which may work better for some people:

"Creating enforceable penalties can indeed be a powerful motivator for behavior change. Here are some potential enforceable penalties for quitting porn, although it's important to note that the effectiveness of these measures can vary from person to person:​
  1. Financial Consequences:
    • Designate a specific amount of money that you will donate to a cause you dislike or an organization you disagree with every time you relapse.​
  2. Social Consequences:
    • Similar to what you've done, impose social penalties such as limiting interaction with close friends or family members, or being open about your struggle, which can add a layer of accountability.​
  3. Time-Related Penalties:
    • Commit to spending a certain amount of hours volunteering for a cause you might find challenging or uncomfortable for each relapse.​
  4. Educational Commitments:
    • Promise to take on an additional educational course or read a book on a topic you find uninteresting or challenging.​
  5. Physical Challenges:
    • Set up a fitness challenge that becomes more demanding with each relapse, such as running a certain number of miles or doing a set number of push-ups.​
  6. Hobbies and Interests:
    • Restrict or eliminate time spent on enjoyable hobbies or activities for a period following a relapse.​
Remember that the effectiveness of these penalties depends on your personal values, and it's essential to choose consequences that genuinely matter to you."


Whenever I get a pornographic thought, I remind myself of the consequences I've agreed to, think of a female from my past who I potentially could have been with and tell myself "there's no chance I will break" and "it will ruin my life".

The strategy has worked flawlessly and I've had zero desire to watch it for an extended period now. I know I'll never watch it again.​
 
patientfrog

patientfrog

NEET Royalty
Apr 21, 2022
2,225
Good post. desire to stop watching porn is a great first step. you have insight into how you operate, and best of all you recognize that combating pornography has to reach the level of thought. That's absolutely huge, and a great sign. if you fall back into it, try again. despair is an effect of watching porn, both because a person has degraded themselves and the woman by engaging in it, and because the addiction becomes so intense you believe you'll never get out of it.

I may have more tips you haven't heard on how to stop watching porn, so it's completely up to you, but if you're interested DM me.
 
ShoelessSperg

ShoelessSperg

NEET
Feb 9, 2024
1,211
Breaking the chains of addiction is a good book I follow
 
Spooky_Heejin

Spooky_Heejin

Sgt. NEETcel
Jan 1, 2024
1,645
How to quit watching porn:
Step 1: get a girlfriend
Step 2: have sex

If we were getting laid there'd be no point to watching porn. Sadly due to constant rejection, there's no way we can.
 
Riddler

Riddler

NEET
Oct 18, 2023
5,355
ZZebra786

ZZebra786

NEET COMMANDER
May 6, 2023
6,748
Literally just get porn blocker, no need to make it overly complicated
 
uglyboi1

uglyboi1

high school drop-out 9 year NEET and live alone
Dec 12, 2021
7,308
It's all bs. If no fap and no porn did anything I would've been chad back in 2015 and a htn now it is in fact fucking bs cope larp do whatever you want
 
ramcel

ramcel

jesus loves you
Jan 9, 2023
248
i've been trying to quit masturbating as well, i can ejaculate with just 2 fingers and 5 seconds so it's basically pretty hard. Can't figure out how I can use my mind to come up with delusions to keep me busy.
 
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Friezacel

Friezacel

Banned
Feb 13, 2024
1,303
tl;dr: get a girlfriend. Everything else is cope and no permanent solution
 
Lorence

Lorence

Christmaxxing
Dec 24, 2023
2,296
Good post. desire to stop watching porn is a great first step. you have insight into how you operate, and best of all you recognize that combating pornography has to reach the level of thought. That's absolutely huge, and a great sign. if you fall back into it, try again. despair is an effect of watching porn, both because a person has degraded themselves and the woman by engaging in it, and because the addiction becomes so intense you believe you'll never get out of it.

I may have more tips you haven't heard on how to stop watching porn, so it's completely up to you, but if you're interested DM me.
I like your avi.
 
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