Discussion How to stop seething at fictional characters?

[absurdity]

I can't help comparing myself to fictional characters, and it's ruining my enjoyment of almost all forms of fiction. After 2 years of NEETdom and anhedonia it is impossible not to be constantly reminded of how shitty my life is in comparison to fictional characters, especially those with lots of friends or in a romantic relationship. Idk how some people can manage to live vicariously through the MC in shit like romcoms when to me it just feels like I'm being taunted by a better world that I'll never get to experience. Is there some technique I can use to help me disassociate and get immersed in fictional worlds again?

 

[Polar-Z]

One solution is to stop watching anything with romcrap. Try a different genre.

 

[rekamaður]

One solution is to stop watching anything with romcrap. Try a different genre.

Honestly if you ever watch romcrap as a male it’s beyond over for your brain

 

[absurdity]

One solution is to stop watching anything with romcrap. Try a different genre.

I already avoid romcoms and pretty much any media with dating-sim mechanics like persona. Problem is most fiction includes aspects of romance and having friends which makes sense since they want to depict idealized worlds, but in my mind I just get reminded that I will never have either of those and get upset. I can't tell my brain to just accept that these people aren't real in the first place

 

[Deleted member 1325]

One solution is to stop watching anything with romcrap. Try a different genre.

im more depressed the world isnt more like one piece, one punch man or sum shiet like dat

 

[Deleted member 82]

just let go

 

[brumgum]

what makes you think you can't have those things, OP?

 

[absurdity]

what makes you think you can't have those things, OP?

I am overly self-aware so I kind of already accept I can't have those things. What I'm honestly more upset about is that even if I did have friends or a gf, they wouldn't live up to the idealized depictions of fiction. I know that sounds majorly autistic but that's why I'm asking for ways to stop thinking this way

 

[Pirate]

what makes you think you can't have those things, OP?

face

 

[Beastimmung]

Read Russian Literature all the characters will have a horribly life

 

[Eren]

You need to watch high T fighting anime like Dragon ball instead

 

[Deleted member 2206]

This is why I love isekai. You have a loser MC who dies and gets reincarnated into chad, the first step allows me to self-insert just fine

 

[absurdity]

This is why I love isekai. You have a loser MC who dies and gets reincarnated into chad, the first step allows me to self-insert just fine

Yea it's just impossible for me to self-insert I guess. Knowing that you will never get a second chance like the MC and watching him live out his life as chad while you're stuck in this shitty reality makes it hard for me to see iseaki as anything other than suifuel

 

[Polar-Z]

Maybe it's best to slowly delve into a different territory by expanding your interests in other mediums of entertainment. While simultaneously moving away from fiction as a whole.
I'm not really sure how to fix this problem and I suffer from it to a degree myself. The shit I obsessed over kept getting ruined by modern writers so I had to leave it behind but I couldn't truly get over it. Sometimes it helps to make my own fiction instead of going through other people's ideas and world building. Maybe you can do that disconnect from the mainstream and make it your personal hobbie to avoid all sources of discomfort of not being in control.

Idk really just thought that maybe you need safe space retreat type of thing.

 

[absurdity]

Maybe it's best to slowly delve into a different territory by expanding your interests in other mediums of entertainment. While simultaneously moving away from fiction as a whole.
I'm not really sure how to fix this problem and I suffer from it to a degree myself. The shit I obsessed over kept getting ruined by modern writers so I had to leave it behind but I couldn't truly get over it. Sometimes it helps to make my own fiction instead of going through other people's ideas and world building. Maybe you can do that disconnect from the mainstream and make it your personal hobbie to avoid all sources of discomfort of not being in control.

Idk really just thought that maybe you need safe space retreat type of thing.

Lately I've turned to non-fiction literature and documentaries instead of fiction, which has helped me avoid those feelings, but hasn't really solved the problem. I like the idea of creating your own stories, or really anything for that matter, since I've been a consumer most of my life and have never really had a proper creative outlet

 

[Saladino]

Read Russian Literature all the characters will have a horribly life

Closest thing to real life