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- Jan 23, 2024
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Does anyone else get fed up with this usual advice of people telling you to focus on the positives rather than negatives? Not saying it's bad advice, but it is very very situational. Focusing on the bright side for someone who's enough of a loser only makes them more self conscious over how terrible their lives are compared to what few positives they can come up with. This kind of advice only works for people who are generally successful or have a decent life but are just having a bad day. Someone like me with zero self esteem would not gain the same positive reinforcement since I genuinely cannot think of any highpoint in my life that is unique to my circumstances. The positives of my life is that I can afford to go to school and eat well in a country where most people can't. That is it. It's a good thing and makes me feel better yes but it doesn't negate my negative experiences that feel so soul crushing in comparison. I've been indoors for 6 years due to health problems I cannot disclose or afford to fix. Nothing I ever attempted to develop an interest in worked, leaving me a husk. No one I put effort into getting close with reciprocates it. My family thinks I'm crazy because of reasons I cannot tell them without getting stoned. My classmates bully me for my skin tone as if I have any control over it. When you have this many negatives in your life focusing on the few positives does not change a thing. Sure I can afford school, but what did I gain from it? I didn't learn anything and everyone hated me. Sure I can afford to eat, but if I was starving I would've largely ended up the same. Sure I still have both parents, but they're always at work so I can't really interact with them properly. Sure I have family, but they think I'm insane, so what's the point? Yes I still have a life to live, but what can I accomplish when I have no skills to speak of?