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hopelessAspieNEET
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- May 26, 2023
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Me and my bf have been together for five years. We live together and we have our own issues, and I do agree that we have problems in our relationship. We don’t communicate well, we don’t plan things with eachother, I feel like he’s not too responsible financially. I have social anxiety and don’t enjoy big public groups, and he gets annoyed if I don’t feel like going somewhere (like a sports game, which I only go to to be there for him.. I hate sports, or if he has a family gathering that I pass up). There’s more I’m sure but my brain is spinning right now so I can’t even list everything.
He told me last night that he thinks we should just be friends, and explained all of those reasons and that we just haven’t worked things out and we’re just two different people but he likes our vibe and still cares about me and I’ve been in his life for over 7 years so he doesn’t want to just let me go and never speak to me again. He said that he wants us to still make plans together, he still wants to come over, he still wants to hang out with me and my family (because my baby brothers have created a bond with him and love him, they’re always asking about him). I don’t agree with the breakup, I feel if you really love someone you can make things work. But, I’m not going to force someone to stay with me or beg and plead so I’m just letting it happen. Not sure what else to do. We haven’t talked about a move out plan or anything yet. We owe some money on a credit card and he’s telling me he’s still going to pay his part, I hope so.
My fear is that I love him too much to just be friends. I mean I just miscarried his baby in April. I’d love to try it, because I do care about him and don’t want to just forget him, but I’m afraid I won’t move on if I do that. I still deeply care for him, I’m afraid if we’re friends and he moves on before me I’ll get so jealous and angry and make a fool of myself. I just don’t really know how you go from being in a long term relationship with someone, to only caring for them as a friend. What do you even talk about? Idk, but I feel so lost and like my whole world just crumbled in front of my eyes. I need advice. On how to even cope with this break up and if I should even try to be friends. This is my first real break up I guess so I’m just lost.
He told me last night that he thinks we should just be friends, and explained all of those reasons and that we just haven’t worked things out and we’re just two different people but he likes our vibe and still cares about me and I’ve been in his life for over 7 years so he doesn’t want to just let me go and never speak to me again. He said that he wants us to still make plans together, he still wants to come over, he still wants to hang out with me and my family (because my baby brothers have created a bond with him and love him, they’re always asking about him). I don’t agree with the breakup, I feel if you really love someone you can make things work. But, I’m not going to force someone to stay with me or beg and plead so I’m just letting it happen. Not sure what else to do. We haven’t talked about a move out plan or anything yet. We owe some money on a credit card and he’s telling me he’s still going to pay his part, I hope so.
My fear is that I love him too much to just be friends. I mean I just miscarried his baby in April. I’d love to try it, because I do care about him and don’t want to just forget him, but I’m afraid I won’t move on if I do that. I still deeply care for him, I’m afraid if we’re friends and he moves on before me I’ll get so jealous and angry and make a fool of myself. I just don’t really know how you go from being in a long term relationship with someone, to only caring for them as a friend. What do you even talk about? Idk, but I feel so lost and like my whole world just crumbled in front of my eyes. I need advice. On how to even cope with this break up and if I should even try to be friends. This is my first real break up I guess so I’m just lost.
