Success Responding to normies and self-improvement cultists on being a 'Loser' (my latest neets net dissertation)

Based Vampire

Based Vampire

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It is quite obvious that, if by certain age you have not accomplished certain things you will be viewed by most people (by society) as a 'loser'. In other words, as a bad (lazy) person who wasted his life. If you defy (or fail to mee) the societel expectations you will be seen in a negative and judgmentall way.

It is also no big secret that the modern society itself is failing men, even some popular speakers like Scott Galloway will speak of state support for men as a group (to make them more economically viable, emotionally viable, etc.). The problem is widespread among young men and that is the reason why the so called self-improvement gurus and hustlers are gaining so much popularity. They prey on young ignorant males and take advantage their ignorance and milk them for money, while promising them an excellent life. Anything is possible (in the words of saint Meeks), you just need to work harder bro. This is the core message.

And while I do not think that we should not do anything to improve our situation and just wallow in our misery, I think the modern self-improvement red pill culture is fundamentally retarded and does more harm than good. I will make two brief points.

Firstly. These people often reinforce the idea that if you fail to meet the societal expectations - you are a loser. You failed in life. You wasted your life. And without certain things - mostly money, career (status) and women you cannot be happy (content). I think that this is very wrong. There is no objective point, goal or standard that one must reach in life in order to be objectively successful. There is no inherent meaning to this life. The idea that you have a good life if you have certain things at certain age is simply a societal construct. It's essentially just people's opinions that do not necessarily correspond to reality. You are not obligated to have a family, to make a certain amount of money, etc. There simply isnt a standard according to which we can judge if one's life is a waste or not. Its just a matter of one opinion vs. another. When it comes to being content it's mostly a matter of personal subjective disposition. We have the ability to lower our expectations to cope with our inability to reach certain goals. So yes, while it's true that it would be good to have certain things, if you don't have them it doesn't necessarily mean that you can't be at least somewhat content in life and that it's over. But this brings me to the second point.

So, Secondly. Normies and self improvement cultists who blame and insult certain people for being 'losers' fail to understand how reality actually works. They attribute their own success or someone else's failure to personal agency. That's why they call people lazy and think of themselves as virtuous and successful. In their eyes, achieving something is only a matter of choice, a matter of volition. The only reason why 'losers are losers' is because they want to be losers or they haven't tried enough.

I think differently. They are mistaken because they fail to recognize how human life is mostly if not entirely determined by things outside of our control, i.e. luck.

The only fundamental reason why 'X' is successful is luck. He was born into a certain family, with certain good genetic traits (high intelligence, stress resilience, good looks), had mostly positive reinforcement throughout his life and did not suffer from possible life-altering events (accidents, bullying, crime etc.). These people are not comfortable with this though because they are so full of themselves, full of pride. They have this image of themselves where it is they as persons who are responsible for what they are. It is because of their effort or so they think they are what they are. In reality, it is not the case. If they were born with lower intelligence, with a high inhibition, bad looks or chronic insomnia they would be 'losers' as well.

The only fundamental reason why 'Y' is a 'loser' is luck. He was born into a dysfunctional family, had little or no positive reinforcement, he was ugly, had no friends, no gf. He had no inherent talents of passions to excel at. He had no access to generational wealth. He was born autistic. The list can go on and on and on...

- But, wait, Based Vamp. Haven't you heard of all the stories where people change their lives for the better, overcoming impossible odds?

- Yes, I have my friend. And this does not disprove my point. The only reason why they were able to overcome certain obstacles in their lives is that they had genetically determined ability to do so and the gravity of their situation was not overwhelming. It's like exercising, right? If you have some friction in life it will strengthen you, but if you are going to lift inadequate amounts of weight daily your muscles will not recover and you will die quickly.

CONCLUSION. (tl;dr)
The next time somebody calls you a loser remember these basic things. There isn't actually an objective standard by which we can judge a persons life as a major success or as a waste. You don't need to have a certain fixed amount of external things to be content in life or to be okay in life. You can learn how to be content with what you already have. And thirdly (most importantly), it is very unlikely that you as a person deserve to be blamed for your failures or praised for your achievements. It seems to me that the course of human life and literally everything that we do is mostly determined by luck (things outside of our control, including genetics) and have little or nothing to do with personal agency (again, our agency and psychological attitudes are influenced by genetics and life trajectory).

There are no winners or losers. Only extremely lucky people, extremely unlucky people and the rest who are in between.

You are not a loser. You did not choose to have the traits that you have that might be preventing you from achieving certain goals.

- 'But what should I do, Based Vamp?'

- Well. Like I said, you should try to do everything to improve your life if necessary. But do not be delusional. Not everything is possible. Know yourself, understand your limits and try to improve your life within these reasonable limits. Stop listening to these delusional gurus who milk you for money. Take small steps to improve your life if necessary. Go at your own pace and on your own terms. Remember, whatever you achieve or fail to achieve - you, as a person, are not to blame for it. Be compassionate towards yourself and your fellow humans. Do not stress over idiots who insult you, call you a loser or a bum. They are simply ignorant. Life is short and full of misery, don't make it harder on yourself. Try not to not obsess over the societal expectations (the bullshit that was made up by people). There is no ultimate universal purpose of human life. Understand the nature of your limitations, set realistic goals and try to be happy as much as possible with what you have. Do not blame yourself as a person.

Take care guys. Yours truly, based vamp.
 
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Thadman

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That's why they call people lazy and think of themselves as virtuous and successful. In their eyes, achieving something is only a matter of choice, a matter of volition. The only reason why 'losers are losers' is because they want to be losers or they haven't tried enough.
Determination & hard work can't change your external circumstances or projection of your facial bones at the end of the day.
 
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