Venting Social isolation is getting to me

[frightfulcel]

Having no social connections is damaging to people. Its been about a year and a half of 95% no social contact and I think its having an impact on my phyche.

Just a little story I want to mention, I remember thinking school was bad, but one day I skipped school and it felt great being on my PC playing CSGO and Fifa or what not while everyone else was at school however as the afternoon hit the feeling went away and it felt a bit pathetic and but the time 3-4pm came around I wished I just went to school. I then went for a walk outside during the evening, and I saw people just living their lives, coming home from work or walking their dog. It gave me a sort of existential dread that the world existed outside of school, and that school was just an establishment that didn't really exist outside of the campus.

That was a little taste of what was to come from being a NEET, it was horrible. As bad as people are, at least you get some sort of social connection. When you are an adult nobody is forced to be around you, people surround themselves in suburban dwellings to avoid any sense of community. Due to being autistic, ethnic, subpar looks etc. its unlikely that I will get social connections again. Then comes the question, why even do anything as edgy as that seems.

I think in the future people I know are going to get married, or die young, age etc. and the world is going to pass me by somewhat. I don't think I'm going to notice it given I am not really part of society. I don't want to join a club or anything given that it will be artifical, plus you then have to deal with aggresion etc. from people.

I think my best case scenario as I've said in other threads is to just moneymaxx for now then get surgeries, maybe move country and try to fit into society then however its not ideal.

 

[Pirate]

(((All of this is intentional)))

 

[gooner23]

what country would you move to if you think that will help you better socialize?

 

[frightfulcel]

what country would you move to if you think that will help you better socialize?

Any ethnic country tbh, but it would be after I get surgeries etc.

 

[ShoelessSperg]

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Having no social connections is damaging to people. Its been about a year and a half of 95% no social contact and I think its having an impact on my phyche.

Just a little story I want to mention, I remember thinking school was bad, but one day I skipped school and it felt great being on my PC playing CSGO and Fifa or what not while everyone else was at school however as the afternoon hit the feeling went away and it felt a bit pathetic and but the time 3-4pm came around I wished I just went to school. I then went for a walk outside during the evening, and I saw people just living their lives, coming home from work or walking their dog. It gave me a sort of existential dread that the world existed outside of school, and that school was just an establishment that didn't really exist outside of the campus.

That was a little taste of what was to come from being a NEET, it was horrible. As bad as people are, at least you get some sort of social connection. When you are an adult nobody is forced to be around you, people surround themselves in suburban dwellings to avoid any sense of community. Due to being autistic, ethnic, subpar looks etc. its unlikely that I will get social connections again. Then comes the question, why even do anything as edgy as that seems.

I think in the future people I know are going to get married, or die young, age etc. and the world is going to pass me by somewhat. I don't think I'm going to notice it given I am not really part of society. I don't want to join a club or anything given that it will be artifical, plus you then have to deal with aggresion etc. from people.

I think my best case scenario as I've said in other threads is to just moneymaxx for now then get surgeries, maybe move country and try to fit into society then however its not ideal.

Go outdoor 10 min

 

[kosharycel]

I've been isolated for a bit of a while, I kinda get used to it

 

[god.ly]

Go outdoor 10 min

Wtf is that supposed to do, you will feeling worse, did you even read the post cause he did do that

 

[クーロ]

I feel you, op. I think the worst part of isolation is that it spirals further and further but your mind is conditioned to seek excuses that put down the issue immediately rather than seeking fundamental solutions. It might just be me, but I know deep down that I don't pick up on social cues because I simply don't go outside. I don't enter enough situations with other people to know what to do so it becomes a matter of experience, but its much easier to just say I'm autistic because it gives me space to feel like this isn't my fault or that it isn't fixable. I don't think most people know what it feels like to truly be isolated completely and most people would go crazy if they were ever in such a situation imo. I hear normies talking about loneliness while still having a ton of acquaintances and small friendships here and there but say they're lonely because none of them are super close. Total loners who don't have a single semblance of attention are isolated both irl and online speaking to no one and doing nothing for years on end are most definitely going to go crazy and it is brutal that such people usually don't seek help because they simply lack the strength and courage needed to ask.

 

[frightfulcel]

I feel you, op. I think the worst part of isolation is that it spirals further and further but your mind is conditioned to seek excuses that put down the issue immediately rather than seeking fundamental solutions. It might just be me, but I know deep down that I don't pick up on social cues because I simply don't go outside. I don't enter enough situations with other people to know what to do so it becomes a matter of experience, but its much easier to just say I'm autistic because it gives me space to feel like this isn't my fault or that it isn't fixable. I don't think most people know what it feels like to truly be isolated completely and most people would go crazy if they were ever in such a situation imo. I hear normies talking about loneliness while still having a ton of acquaintances and small friendships here and there but say they're lonely because none of them are super close. Total loners who don't have a single semblance of attention are isolated both irl and online speaking to no one and doing nothing for years on end are most definitely going to go crazy and it is brutal that such people usually don't seek help because they simply lack the strength and courage needed to ask.

Pretty much, once cut off from society all the infustructure is just matter, its sort of like being on a desert island or something. Of course I'll pass people in my day to day life but I won't interact with them or anything.

 

[Friezacel]

such people usually don't seek help because they simply lack the strength and courage needed to ask.

Seeking out help is cope, if you are over 20 and a social retard then the train is gone for you and no amount of muh therapy can change that

 

[Riddler]

Seeking out help is cope, if you are over 20 and a social retard then the train is gone for you and no amount of muh therapy can change that

Nah there's time but every passing year until your mid 20s it gets harder to shift due to inertia

 

[ShoelessSperg]

Wtf is that supposed to do, you will feeling worse, did you even read the post cause he did do that

Only by seeking discomfort you will find comfort as a neet shit I’m going out for daily walks is essential for sanity

 

[god.ly]

Only by seeking discomfort you will find comfort

 

[Tabula Rasa]

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Having no social connections is damaging to people. Its been about a year and a half of 95% no social contact and I think its having an impact on my phyche.

Just a little story I want to mention, I remember thinking school was bad, but one day I skipped school and it felt great being on my PC playing CSGO and Fifa or what not while everyone else was at school however as the afternoon hit the feeling went away and it felt a bit pathetic and but the time 3-4pm came around I wished I just went to school. I then went for a walk outside during the evening, and I saw people just living their lives, coming home from work or walking their dog. It gave me a sort of existential dread that the world existed outside of school, and that school was just an establishment that didn't really exist outside of the campus.

That was a little taste of what was to come from being a NEET, it was horrible. As bad as people are, at least you get some sort of social connection. When you are an adult nobody is forced to be around you, people surround themselves in suburban dwellings to avoid any sense of community. Due to being autistic, ethnic, subpar looks etc. its unlikely that I will get social connections again. Then comes the question, why even do anything as edgy as that seems.

I think in the future people I know are going to get married, or die young, age etc. and the world is going to pass me by somewhat. I don't think I'm going to notice it given I am not really part of society. I don't want to join a club or anything given that it will be artifical, plus you then have to deal with aggresion etc. from people.

I think my best case scenario as I've said in other threads is to just moneymaxx for now then get surgeries, maybe move country and try to fit into society then however its not ideal.

I’ve been friendless for a number of years now, and honestly, platonic friendships in real life are not something I particularly care for, (at least with other males). I’ve been isolated to the point where I can’t really identify or emphasise with the average normie, and prefer to read and interact with other contrarians on the internet. However, I lament the negative impacts or consequences that come alongside social isolation, that is, lower quality of life, social status, etc. I also get depressed from my environment and the state of society these days. If I were wealthy with all my material needs taken care of and the ability to do whatsoever at my whim, making friends would not even cross my mind.

 

[Deleted member 1903]

If you get into a fight or negative altercation (some foid treats you like shit), who's going to back you up and defend you? You will get stressed and eat yourself because you don't have any boys to laugh about it to or real friends to back you up if someone decides to attack you. And stuff like that. Life just changes when you have a real social circle

 

[MelaninQueen]

what country would you move to if you think that will help you better socialize?

Ethiopia.

 

[MelaninQueen]

If you get into a fight or negative altercation (some foid treats you like shit), who's going to back you up and defend you? You will get stressed and eat yourself because you don't have any boys to laugh about it to or real friends to back you up if someone decides to attack you. And stuff like that. Life just changes when you have a real social circle

I don't give a fuck about other normgroids. My AI teammates in ArmA III will always be there to protect my ass (although you have to control them through High Command waypoints or use a third-party addon like VCOM or DCO Soldier FSM).

 

[MelaninQueen]

I’ve been friendless for a number of years now, and honestly, platonic friendships in real life are not something I particularly care for, (at least with other males). I’ve been isolated to the point where I can’t really identify or emphasise with the average normie, and prefer to read and interact with other contrarians on the internet. However, I lament the negative impacts or consequences that come alongside social isolation, that is, lower quality of life, social status, etc. I also get depressed from my environment and the state of society these days. If I were wealthy with all my material needs taken care of and the ability to do whatsoever at my whim, making friends would not even cross my mind.

From the looks of your comment, you're definitely not neurotypical (at all). I truly relate in half of your experience.

 

[Deleted member 1365]

Too relatable, I feel like an alien among other humans. I'm even shy to talk to people in online videogames, let alone irl. I dont even enjoy anything anymore since this negativity spiral makes everything look pointless.

Problem is, the few times when I was in social groups I still felt alone because I had to put an act to barely fit in with other irl autists. Most autistic people are just a little socially awkward but dont have as many problems socializing as us. Just venting tbh

 

[Based Vampire]

Too relatable, I feel like an alien among other humans. I'm even shy to talk to people in online videogames, let alone irl. I dont even enjoy anything anymore since this negativity spiral makes everything look pointless.

Problem is, the few times when I was in social groups I still felt alone because I had to put an act to barely fit in with other irl autists. Most autistic people are just a little socially awkward but dont have as many problems socializing as us. Just venting tbh

I don't mean to sound dark but maybe it is over. Maybe there is no solution. But if there is one, you are the only one who can figure it out. Advice is usually useless and most people won't go through with it.

The broader point I wanted to make is how sad it is how many if not most people spend days and months and years thinking about how different their lives could be or even trying to make a change only to fail or end up dissatisfied and disappointed in the end. And then the grim reaper comes! This life is sad and pathetic!

 

[Deleted member 1365]

it is over.

Yes it really is, outside of the incel meme. I dont usually lurk reddit but last week I was on r/hikikomori and I saw a 40 year old guy post how his life hasnt changed a bit since he was 20 years old, it is a brutal read. Sometimes you just gotta accept happiness is not for you and move on.

 

[Thadman]

And then the grim reaper comes! This life is sad and pathetic!

I would have tried killing myself if it weren't for the money in my bank to buy junk food to cope. Reading and watching movies is hard because I cant focus on them no matter how much effort I put in, although its been a worthy cope the few times I managed to do it

 

[Mari]

I don't mean to sound dark but maybe it is over. Maybe there is no solution. But if there is one, you are the only one who can figure it out. The advice is usually useless and most people won't go through with it.

The broader point I wanted to make is how sad it is how many if not most people spend days and months and years thinking about how different their lives could be or even trying to make a change only to fail or end up dissatisfied and disappointed in the end. And then the grim reaper comes! This life is sad and pathetic!

theres always the possibility to get reformed mentally by joining the military

 

[Deleted member 1365]

theres always the possibility to get reformed mentally by joining the military

Neets.net is bugged now so it doesnt let me give you jfl react ill just give you an updoot

 

[Based Vampire]

Sometimes you just gotta accept happiness is not for you and move one.

True, but then again, how do you know? You can't. At best you can make probabilistic judgements and act on them, but how do you know that they are accurate enough, how do you overcome your bias?). Thinking like this can be a source of constant anxiety. What do I do, Lord? If I continue trying to improve my life, will I fail again and again? Will I ever find the peace or will I struggle like a madman until I die? But if I stop and accept my misery I may regret this decision later and for the rest of my life.

You are damned if you do and damned if you don't, it almost feels like! I sometimes think that life is like a booby trap for many people

 

[Based Vampire]

True, but then again, how do you know? You can't. At best you can make probabilistic judgements and act on them, but how do you know that they are accurate enough, how do you overcome your bias?). Thinking like this can be a source of constant anxiety. What do I do, Lord? If I continue trying to improve my life, will I fail again and again? Will I ever find the peace or will I struggle like a madman until I die? But if I stop and accept my misery I may regret this decision later and for the rest of my life.

You are damned if you do and damned if you don't, it almost feels like! I sometimes think that life is like a booby trap for many people

But if you can overcome this type of thinking and somehow detach or gain control over your thoughts you may be better off accepting your situation if it really isn't feasible for you to change it. Basically stoicism-maxxing or buddhism-maxxing. I think most people who claim that they did this are fakes, but I do believe it's possible

 

[Deleted member 1365]

But if you can overcome this type of thinking and somehow detach or gain control over your thoughts you may be better off accepting your situation if it really isn't feasible for you to change it. Basically stoicism-maxxing or buddhism-maxxing. I think most people who claim that they did this are fakes, but I do believe it's possible

Regarding first post, rn I have all I ever asked when I was a teenager, free time for myself to do whatever I wanted, and I only feel void. I hate irl social interaction but at the same time no human being can be completely alone without going crazy, if only I had an autistic friend I could meet and play vidya with. In my first college degree that I did there were a lot of autistic subhumans like me and yet three months in I was the only guy in a 60 ppl class who didnt talk to nobody, im really that shy.

Regarding second post, I always thought going monk was cool af, I used to watch documentaries about Buddhism in Bhutan and those guys looked more fullfilled in life than anyone I have ever seen. Only problem is if you dont have a strong belief in that you will end up getting bored. Tbh most people who try estoicism are in pain, while I'm not in pain just feeling extremely void.

 

[frightfulcel]

Yes it really is, outside of the incel meme. I dont usually lurk reddit but last week I was on r/hikikomori and I saw a 40 year old guy post how his life hasnt changed a bit since he was 20 years old, it is a brutal read. Sometimes you just gotta accept happiness is not for you and move on.

My only chance is to get a bimax then move to a more ethnic country on top of that. I doubt I'll ever do that given the logistics involved are so great. I don't think my ideas/theories are that bad rather my will to enact them. I think everyone has a "plan" to beat the odds but most never actually do. The people who succeed are people who were well off initially.

I don't mean to sound dark but maybe it is over. Maybe there is no solution. But if there is one, you are the only one who can figure it out. Advice is usually useless and most people won't go through with it.

The broader point I wanted to make is how sad it is how many if not most people spend days and months and years thinking about how different their lives could be or even trying to make a change only to fail or end up dissatisfied and disappointed in the end. And then the grim reaper comes! This life is sad and pathetic!

Might make a thread on this

 

[Deleted member 1365]

My only chance is to get a bimax then move to a more ethnic country on top of that

To get a girlfriend I suppose? Well if you think it will be good for you go for it tbh, personally I lost all interest in the idea of being in a relationship at this point

 

[frightfulcel]

To get a girlfriend I suppose? Well if you think it will be good for you go for it tbh, personally I lost all interest in the idea of being in a relationship at this point

Its more to fuel my narcassism if I'm being 100% honest. I thought from a young age that I would be getting girls, and good exam results. When I was 12-13 this was somewhat true but then it all went away and I've been a trucel ever since. Its essentially just me trying to feel like I matter, however by the time I get it (if I do I doubt it) I'll be old so will it even matter jfl

 

[BlackOps2Enjoyer1]

To;dr but just try making friends on discord, I'm a neet with irl friends and online friends can be as good as irl friends, you can even be more open with them since it's online anyways

 

[Pirate]

Go outdoor 10 min

I went outside, all i saw were shops and malls, no parks or libaraies within walking distance

 

[ShoelessSperg]

I went outside, all i saw were shops and malls, no parks or libaraies within walking distance

Walk further