The cynicism of being celibate

[UglyBastard]

Yes, I hear the apostles of cynicism boasting that it's all just vile creatures, unworthy of any attention. However, allow me to detach myself from this facade for a moment and ask: who among you doesn't regret the absence of a genuine bond? That human warmth that intoxicates the senses and softens the spirit, with its scent, its soft skin, the kisses blown by the ear, all tempered by the soft delicacy of a whispered ‘love’. Is there any soul that doesn't shudder at the memory of such moments?

I'm not talking about a mere carnal act - that can be bought with the vile weight of money. But you can't buy with coins the intimate shelter of a sincere embrace, the absolute disarmament that makes you naked and full at the same time. No amount of money can offer that. And it's precisely this impossibility that tears you apart. If you've never known it, perhaps you live with a numb chest, believing that it's all just a big mistake. But woe betide anyone who has tasted that glimmer of grace: for them, there is no simulacrum that satiates, no drug that deceives desire; the soul writhes with want, like an open wound.

No, of course we don't die without it. Life drags us through a thousand distractions. But to deny how much we miss it would be a puerile lie. What really gnaws at me, what consumes me from the inside, is seeing so many people for whom this opportunity comes their way, almost effortlessly, while others - perhaps me - face homeric battles, willing to move mountains, and yet they barely touch the edge of this ecstasy. We live in an infernal labyrinth of injustices, everything seems meaningless. And, I confess, nothing would please me more than to discover some glimmer of purpose behind all this miserable existence.

 

[Thenettraveller]

It reminds me of women who are desperate for having children, yet are unable to have them.
It is a delusion, it's an idol created in one's mind that does not exist.
In both cases whether it's a child or girlfriend in it, they are not seen as people, but as objects that are there to fill one's emptiness inside. It's a focus on worldly short moments in time, while ignoring the rest, elevating them to a divine level.

A woman is not a goddess, she will not bring ultimate happiness and meaning to life, she will not fill the void inside.
People who think like that, the moment they get into a relationship are quickly brought back to reality, and then sadly they may start a new quest with the same fanatic intensions, this time it won't be a girlfriend but a baby.
And when they have a baby they will again realise it will not give them what they are searching for.
These are archetypes sold by snake-oil salesman of happiness like Disney, which lead to disasters.
The blackpill really is the darkest shade of blue.

The tragedy is that people who may not have had experiences with women at all, may confuse what they see outside with what happens on the inside. They are looking threw the window of their basement, and couples laughing and holding hands, so they assume mistakenly that they must be happy with their relationship and it must be healthy.
That might create a sort of FOMO, where they think everyone is happy around them but them, and the way to fix that is to do what the rest does.

True Happiness and Peace can never be found in anything physical in this world, not in girlfriends, wifes, biological families, babies, children, work or money, but only in a True Loving Spiritual relationship with God.

 

[UglyBastard]

True Happiness and Peace can never be found in anything physical in this world, not in girlfriends, wifes, biological families, babies, children, work or money, but only in a True Loving Spiritual relationship with God.

It sounds like you're expressing deep thoughts about how people might seek fulfillment in relationships or other external factors, only to find them insufficient or even misleading. It's an interesting perspective, especially regarding how societal expectations and media portrayals can shape these desires.
While some might find meaning and happiness in relationships or parenthood, you're right that these should never be seen as the ultimate solution to inner fulfillment. It's essential to cultivate a sense of self-worth and peace that isn't entirely dependent on external circumstances.
Your mention of finding true happiness and peace in a spiritual relationship with God resonates with many people who seek deeper, more enduring fulfillment beyond the material world. Spiritual growth can indeed offer a profound sense of purpose and contentment.

If you don't mind sharing, what experiences or insights led you to these conclusions?

 

[Schizo]

It's essential to cultivate a sense of self-worth and peace that isn't entirely dependent on external circumstances.

 

[UglyBastard]

Agreeing with an AI is complicated. I don't usually do that.

 

[Schizo]

Agreeing with an AI is complicated. I don't usually do that.

Ai or not , it was a good point.

 

[Deleted member 2463]

I am in relationship, and I pity you completely

 

[UglyBastard]

I am in relationship, and I pity you completely

Would you mind elaborating on that?

 

[Deleted member 2463]

Would you mind elaborating on that?

I am in relationship with my oneitis