"Why do you care about making friends"

rainghost

rainghost

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Oct 21, 2022
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I've tried to escape social isolation for over a decade. I spent almost no time trying to figure out career goals, since I couldn't see a future for myself anyway; and I spent all my free time trying to talk to people or find people to talk to, to escape loneliness, rather than on trying to find hobbies or develop interests.

So I'm really curious about the people who are huge advocates of focusing on yourself and not bothering with people. They usually admit to feeling lonely and not being happy alone. But they still advise taking steps to further isolate yourself, and they show zero understanding and compassion for a kind of pain they literally suffer from, themselves.

And I get it; they're right. Pursuing people to the extent that I have has only made my life wasted and empty. I was nothing, and I stayed that way, rather than fixing it. I guess it's just the lack of empathy that really burns.


Actually, I should clarify. What I'm getting at is the same principle behind "you shouldn't think about wanting a SO before you fix your personal problems."

While there is truth behind this, the fact that odds are, having more friends or even a SO might not even 'cure' your loneliness... it doesn't address people who have really dire social situations. Having no friends for decades. Being cheated on by your only long term relationship, or never having a relationship well into adulthood. People who say this crap either found a way to turn off the hurt, or they don't even feel it that badly themselves because other people gravitate towards them.

Sure, your issues are still going to be there. But god damn, having at least one person around probably would go a long way in decreasing how much it hurts.
 
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thirdworldcel

thirdworldcel

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Feb 22, 2023
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I want friends to use for my own benefit; money, food and hopefully sex but I'm ugly and friendless so
 
Al-Maari600

Al-Maari600

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Dec 11, 2022
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Lol I have friends overrated though
 
anonymousghoul

anonymousghoul

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Jan 19, 2024
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Making friends is extremely important. Social connection is a physiological need for humans. Without that you can legit go insane.
True, I've already gone insane. I haven't had a friend in 12 years.
 
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Neet194012940

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Jan 20, 2024
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loneliness is a type of central nervous system stress.
if you're stressed you give off bad vibes
if you have bad vibes no one wants to hang out with you specifically (maybe they can tolerate for a little bit if similaraly lonely)
 
Pikabro

Pikabro

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Jan 10, 2024
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The point is if you keep trying to socialise without doing the work you’re going to keep wasting time. But when doing the inner work you have to also maintain socialisation so you don’t get demotivated and fall off
 
Thadman

Thadman

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Sep 6, 2023
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Most women don't want a friendless dude and often you're gonna end up with "friends in law"
Not true, they can look past you being a social reject if they like you enough.

A lot of people fail to fully understand female mentality, you can be a total dolt without a job and much positive qualities but if they have feelings then they will look past any dumb shit you might do.
 
Riddler

Riddler

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Oct 18, 2023
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Not true, they can look past you being a social reject if they like you enough.

A lot of people fail to fully understand female mentality, you can be a total dolt without a job and much positive qualities but if they have feelings then they will look past any dumb shit you might do.
It happens for sure but it's not the norm. You can not have a job but being socially inept is a pretty big failo
 
browncel

browncel

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Jan 31, 2024
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Eh its mostly a cope when people say that. Theres no such thing as friendship. In this time of age is rare to have a good friend. And believe me its like that because most people are shit. Humanity is overrated
 
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